Love’s Infectious Disease
What is it men desire? I will tell you, to share love with a woman. I do not care what any guy says about not believing in love, or that he will never settle down because whether he has just settled for a “quick fix” or in a two year relationship with a woman he is searching for the missing piece or himself. No amount of brains or even bravado could hide this.
Men are gentle creatures and there is some natural occurring organism that exists in all women that will latch onto a man’s heart and coat it in her very essence. An organism that leaps from one host to the other and latches onto the new host like a tick that digs its teeth into the flesh of its victim. The small red spot that you receive letting you know you are infected has become the feeling in your chest. A feeling that wasn’t there before and was put there, however unintentional, but you search for more. Some men are more susceptible than others, and some are only “infected” by that one special strain of the “virus.” I use the term virus, not to say that love is a bad thing, but rather to describe it as infectious in how it spreads to every part of the body and felt as deep as the soul. As if you could ball up happiness in keep it in your pocket for when you needed it most. The spread does not come from anything, but a simple glance into the eyes or maybe even the scent as you pass by in the street.
There is no logic in how a man thinks, nor should there be, in our minds. We contract this disease without any thought of recourse because, even if on the most basic level it gives us a “quick fix” because she cures herself of us, we essentially have acquired our basic needs as a man. If on the other hand we find that the two hosts have found a way to harmonize with one another we are left without disappointment.
Do we chase what we can’t have? Men certainly don’t, fact is, men are not intelligent enough to chase. If anything they are tricked into following a maze to no end and for the most part only to find a moldy piece of cheese which we will eat because we are dumb enough to believe that it’s the only choice we have, until finally finding the entrance to the next maze. In this case, I think most will agree that we would be the rats in the maze, rather than mice. Even the best of us choose to be the bad guy.
peace,
The Tom Shaggy
Welcome To The Pack: Tom Shaggy
It’s really thrilling to have yet another one of my favorite writers on board here at Luxe Lobalita. It’s even more thrilling that there will be some more male perspective around this place.
Stay Classy,
Gee
99% talk, 1% filter. I believe in telling people what is really on my mind with my words. I don’t often care how I will be perceived by you, because sooner or later someone will tell you what you really are. I find humor in truth, man of many skills and a master of none. I am here with Luxe Lobalita to put the male perspective on the line. To bring a little truth to what is actually happening inside our heads.
Is his stick really magic?
The quickest way to bruise a man’s ego is to insult his God given counterpart – his penis. Why? Because we live in a society where bigger is better. A lot of men have developed insecurities directly associated to their penis. While a lot of men are prided on their “skill” women are desperately trying to understand why men would fabricate their endowment.
Could it be that we’ve been brain washed by media? From male enhancement pills to the bulge in the Calvin Klein model’s briefs men and women alike are forced to believe that if you are not a large man you are not a man at all? Is this true?
What does size mean to you, ladies?
-Jungle Justine
Cyberships
I’ve noticed this new…craze, if you will: online dating amongst our youth. It’s no longer the scary consequence for not being able to find love rather a perfectly logical option for dating. Now personally, I’m all for it. You can meet some cool-ass people on the internet and at times, cooler than the folks you’re meeting in real life. But I do wonder sometimes, are these Cyberships futile? It’s not like our real relationships don’t depend almost entirely on liking each others’ statuses and following each other on every social network, ever, but these Cyberships have such small chances of leaving the computer. It’s not even the mystery aspect either, the “you could be a 50 year old man” because I have a little more trust in humanity than to write everyone off but it’s the “you live here, I live there: how could this work?” and all the while you start to develop feelings for this person (sorry for the run-on). It just seems like even if you find someone you could be with, cyber space and the distance it creates between you would ultimately ruin those chances. So as much as I’ve come to admire and appreciate so many men and women on the internet, I’ll leave these things to fate because there are just too many factors that I can’t control.
From Your Nearest Closet
Style Icon: Pharrell Williams
Hip-Hop has been as influential on fashion as any other cultural force in the last twenty years. But recently the rap world has been looking much better thanks to to Pharrell Williams. Williams led the “rap pack” away from 5XL white tees and Timbs, toward slimmer denim and formfitting V-Necks. He has led the charge on a growing black prep movement, which adds a bit of color to an ironically American Look. So if you want to know where hip-hop is going sound wise & sartorially, this is your man.
-Bueller
Do Yourself A Favor & Dress Your Age
One of my biggest pet peeves is when Men/Women do not dress appropriately for their job. This phenomenon is especially common in Men. Also, I’ve observed that if you dress even semi-well on the weekend, that is apparently a sure sign that you’re gay. Living in the Bay Area has opened my eyes to how bad recent college grads and other lazy genres of Men dress.
It’s truly not that hard to dress well, (or should I say at least acceptable,) nor does is have to be expensive.
Here are some basic points for not looking like a 22 year old from Aurora in the office:
Shoes: Something very simple and classic; a black oxford or wingtip will do the trick. NO square toed shoes.
Socks: I usually follow that your shoes should be the darkest piece, then your socks, then your pants. If you have smaller legs or hate your socks falling down, get over-the-calf socks. Gold Toes are great in black.
Pants/Slacks: Something that fits; when you stand up hits the top of your shoes, not the bottom! Also, the actual fit of the pants varies by your comfort level, but no boot-cut or flare pants. Straight or slightly tapered will always be in style.
Shirts: This is even easier, go get MEASURED. It’s easy and free! By far the best/easiest shirts I own are Brooks Brother’s Slim Fit Non-Iron Dress Shirts. Finish with a tie; simple is always a safe bet.
Coats: This definitely has quite a few more choices depending on the weather; none of which are your four year old Columbia or North Face jacket! It’s quite easy when you think about it; dress for the weather.
Spring/Rain = Trench coat. (Khaki, Black)
Winter = Top/Over Coat. (Dark Blue,Charcoal, Black)
Summer = Sport coat, blazer, or maybe even a vest or something. (Match)
That’s it…If you need further explanation, comment away…
- Bueller