Never settle for anything less

So often we settle for less and rationalize it. We are inches from what we truly want, but we stop and sit, or worse yet, turn back. Some times, I wonder why most women, would want to settle for less, when they can actually get the best out of their relationship if they want. Day in and day out settling for a woman/man who doesnt take the time to ask you “how was your day?” Settling is not the solution. While we appreciate that this new doctrine might make some women think twice about dumping a perfectly nice guy just because he chews with his mouth full or uses words like “irregardless,” no guy wants to be a fallback option. Men and women choose each other for completely different reasons. Women are choosing for longevity (does he treat me right? is he a good worker/provider? is he monogamous?) in the relationship: love based stability. Men choose for propagation of the species: (does she smell lovely so I can get close to her? can I wrap myself around her? will she let me?). The checklist is a remnant of childhood dreams (prince charming) or desire to control future hurts/failure in relationship (impossible, but makes sense). Who cares about the list? Just have the courtesy not to reveal why you don’t want a second date. Don’t try to give it several more dates to find sparks. Most importantly know yourself before trying to know and fall for someone else.