So often we settle for less and rationalize it. We are inches from what we truly want, but we stop and sit, or worse yet, turn back. Some times, I wonder why most women, would want to settle for less, when they can actually get the best out of their relationship if they want. Day in and day out settling for a woman/man who doesnt take the time to ask you “how was your day?” Settling is not the solution. While we appreciate that this new doctrine might make some women think twice about dumping a perfectly nice guy just because he chews with his mouth full or uses words like “irregardless,” no guy wants to be a fallback option. Men and women choose each other for completely different reasons. Women are choosing for longevity (does he treat me right? is he a good worker/provider? is he monogamous?) in the relationship: love based stability. Men choose for propagation of the species: (does she smell lovely so I can get close to her? can I wrap myself around her? will she let me?). The checklist is a remnant of childhood dreams (prince charming) or desire to control future hurts/failure in relationship (impossible, but makes sense). Who cares about the list? Just have the courtesy not to reveal why you don’t want a second date. Don’t try to give it several more dates to find sparks. Most importantly know yourself before trying to know and fall for someone else.

Alkin finally decided to run with the wolves.

 
I have always been taught to save yourself for marriage. Well what if I don’t believe in marriage, in lust and all the multi-colored sprinkle people put on having sex. I’m twenty-two years old and have never had intercourse with anyone, I believe in saving it for someone who is worth it. By worth it [...]

Are you in the south? Are you from the south? If not, this may not be for you. I am a Southern enthusiast. No, not the country where they raise they raise their confederate flags and are active in their local KKK. DA SOUF’.

What is it men desire? I will tell you, to share love with a woman.  I do not care what any guy says about not believing in love, or that he will never settle down because whether he has just settled for a “quick fix” or in a two year relationship with a woman he [...]

Alright ladies, I think it’s time we set the record straight.  As rough and tough as men pretend to be most of the time, there is a side that often times, is not seen by the fairer sex.  Now I’ll admit that more often than not men will disappear on women, but every so often [...]

Growing up for awhile my mother and grandmother brought all my clothes. I can recall one time where my godmother took me shopping and saying “oh your breast are getting so big, we need to go a cup higher.” I had no idea what she meant, and wish back then I would have asked her. [...]

The internet has been buzzing with talk about Kanye’s new single , “Power”,  off his upcoming album reportedly titled Good Ass Job. When he’s not busy interrupting teenage girls at award shows or criticizing presidents, he’s making damn good music. The 808’s and Heartbreaks Kanye seems to be long gone and he’s back in all [...]

It’s really thrilling to have yet another one of my favorite writers on board here at Luxe Lobalita. It’s even more thrilling that there will be some more male perspective around this place.
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99% talk, 1% filter.  I believe in telling people what is really on my mind with my words.  I don’t often care [...]

I’m actually getting more of these than I thought. Here’s Grace :)
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